There are so many people that we meet in our lives and then there are so many who stick with us for our entire lives but then there are some who are not able to stand the test of time. Yet, each friendship is unique and fills in our life so much of love. Let us today have a look at some of the time tested friendship.
How are your friendships different now than they were when you were a child?
As a child, everyone was my friend and yet no one was. I remember talking to certain set of people of some days and then talking to others on some other days. After some time, I met people with whom I chose to stick but the circle is somehow getting completed. Because, now I have lot of friends and the ones I hang out with change in every quarter or so.
How do you maintain a good friendship?
I think the only way to maintain good friendship is to make it transparent. When the other person knows you and understands your situations and trusts you that you will always say the truth, there are very few chances of ruining the friendship.
How do you make new friends?
There is never an attempt on my part to make friends deliberately. Yes, I do interact with people and for that matter lots of them and then during that interaction if I get to meet some people who are like minded and share the common worries we become friends.
How many people do you consider your “best friends?”
There are three people who are very close to me and know me inside out. They are the ones who understand me and know the things that I am facing, they know why I am reacting and there is so less to explain to them. So, I think these are the three people who are my best friends.
Is it common to have friendships across generations?
I don’t think so. I believe it is more common to have friendships in the same generation because there is this common view that the other might not understand us. But, when people from two generations become friends it is almost always amazing. Because there is so much that everyone can learn from each other.
What are the advantages and disadvantages of these types of friendships?
I think the major advantage is that everyone gets to learn a lot from the other person. Because both of them have different stance on the same thing and when these two stances meet, it is almost magical. On the other side, if people don’t understand that differences are bound to happen, friendships in two generations cannot happen.
Do you have any friends from a different generation than you?
Yes I do have. Over the years, my parents have become my friends and I do share a lot of things with them. They are the ones who get to know what is happening in my life, first and things get told to the other world after that. It is amazing because they know what is happening and they do realize it and give me the best advice.
There is a saying “To have a good friend, you need to be a good friend.” How can you be a good friend?
To be a good friend, you need to be truthful to the other person. There are times when you can help and times when you cannot. To tell things as they are, is what makes a good friend. And then, you need to be able to keep things to yourself because it is only then that the other person can trust you. Also, if you try to understand the opinion of the other person, you do become a good friend indeed.
What do you usually do with your friends?
Most of the times we have fun together and fun for us could be either playing badminton or coding together or may be just hanging out like that sharing things with each other.
What factors may result in the breakdown of a good friendship?
The biggest thing in breaking a friendship or for that matter any relation is silence. When we choose to not talk about things that hurt us. When we are not loyal to the other person. So, may be ditching them or telling lies about them. May be not understanding the other person.
What is a best friend?
A friend who knows you inside out, who understands your point of view, who might not always agree with you but for sure will always support you. Who knows that there are times when you are wrong and can show you the right path.
What is the longest friendship that you have had?
The longest friendship would be the one that is the most special to me. My friend Vipula, we have been friends since I was in 11th class. So, it is almost eight years of we knowing each other. We have talked lot of paths together and it has been an amazing journey together.