No matter how much we love the other person, there are times when conflict arise. There are times when we don’t agree with the other person, when there are fights and disappointments. Some people tend to assume it as the end of relationship, but then there are some who don’t let a fight bog them down and go ahead and try to solve the issue. Let us today have a look at questions related to conflicts people face in friendships and how they solve them.
What quality do you admire most in people and which one do you find the most objectionable?
The quality that I admire the most is the ability to be calm and have a smiling face even after facing the world’s most difficult situation. The ones that are able to smile through rough times are the ones that I truly admire the most. The one thing that I really don’t like in people is their tendency to hide things. I mean, I hate it when people try to play clever by not telling things and then suddenly saying they forgot about it. It makes you feel too small.
What behavior of others hurts you most?
That moment when people just don’t try to understand your point of view, it is then that I get irritated the most and it does hurts. Because most of the times people start questioning my loyalty towards them, and it becomes so disastrous because there is so much that you want to explain but there is so little that you can do about it.
When you have upset someone by your actions, what do you try to do?
I try everything possible by me to make them feel good because when I upset people it so often happens that I feel bad myself so I go out talk to them, try to make them understand why I did it and explain my situation and more importantly understand theirs.
What do you consider to be your good and bad qualities?
There are certain qualities in me that I really admire. One of them is the fact that I try my best to do things on my own. The self-respect that I carry is almost infectious. The next thing that I love about myself is that when I set a goal for myself I try my best to achieve it. With them there are certain things I consider not that good, one of them is I try to judge myself a lot. I think that is one thing that bogs me down most of the times.
What qualities help you to have good relationships with others?
I believe my concern towards other person problems help me have good relationships. Also, I tend to always greet people with smile and try to motivate people when they feel low.
What traits or actions make an interpersonal conflict worse?
When a person completely shuts himself or herself out, I think it is then that a conflict becomes worse. Because you stop talking to the other person and then make speculations which have no reason or sense. The other thing is when you are not interested in understanding the opinion of other, when that happens, there are chances of making interpersonal conflicts worse.
Are relationships among people better or worse than a few years ago? Why?
I think relationships have surely taken a back seat since the past few years. In today’s world people are more interested in making a career and achieving their goals than building relationships. It is only later in life that people understand that relationships are equally important.
Do you think that dysfunctional family life contributes to worsening relationships in society?
Too an extent yes it does. Because we all are in some way representation of what kind of life we live, so if there is a person who belongs to a dysfunctional family, there are more chances that he or she will not trust people or may be behave the same way as he or she sees in the family. The worse part is often people tend to judge the person on his or her actions, completely ignoring the situation in which the person is living. So, I think if there are more happy families or may be more people trying to first understanding the situation of the other before judging, we will have better lives.
Is getting along with others a natural ability from birth or does it have to be learnt?
I think there is some sort of innateness along with it, because some sort of people, just know how to gel up with others. However, if one tries to learn it or makes an attempt to get along with people, I think it is not a very big thing to do, only if the other person is interested as well.
